Do not HIDE: Get the job
you want…
There are many articles written about the ways in which people lie to
us. They often explain the signs that we should look for and how to deal with
someone when they lie. The police commonly use these tell tale signs to ascertain
whether or not someone is telling the truth.
But rarely is anything ever written about how we can decipher if we are being dishonest with ourselves.
On a daily basis here at CLMD, we have young people coming in to see us
with the idea of what they think they might want to do with their future. Often
these ideas are formulated around preconceived notions based on their social
status or what others may have done before them.
Often, once we have spoken to the young people around us we see that
they may have been deceiving themselves all along; too nervous to really take a
chance on what they want so they go along with what they think is acceptable.
Some think they are not capable, some are following their peers, whilst others might deem themselves
too inexperienced to know what they truly want to do.
I constantly hear at CLMD that students think travelling into central
London is ‘too far’. However we are only
in Woolwich, the distance is not too great and the jobs often pay far
better. Also, there are thousands of
incredibly successful people working in London that commute in from much
further afield. When I get to the crux
of it, one of the key reasons why some service users don’t want to go into the
city for work is because they believe everyone there to be ‘posh’ or ‘stuck
up’. Having myself worked in many
different countries, I believe Central London to be one
of the most vibrant and brilliant places to work, learn and grow as a person in
the world. But, perception is everything, and unfortunately some of our
candidates would rather miss an opportunity than risk working in a place they
wrongly believe that they may not be accepted.
Blaming other people for the things that are happening around us is a
great tell tale sign that you might be deceiving yourself. As an adult, realistically
the only person responsible for you is you. So what if the people who work in a
certain part of town behave in a certain way? If they are doing the job you
want to do then either change yourself or change their perception, but always
remember to be an individual. No one should put anyone down. Take the chance
and go for the interview in the part of town you think you may not belong in.
You may find that the people are friendly, helpful and that you have access job
opportunities you otherwise would not have had.
Getting my students to re-examine their perceptions as well as working
on their internal messages and self-esteem have been a massive part in changing
their attitudes and getting them to try and enjoy new experiences.
Tell-tale signs that you may not be happy with the path you have chosen:
Vices i.e. drinking and taking drugs – this is a clear sign that you are
trying to hide from your true feelings and emotions about the situation that
you find yourself in.
Not doing
what you say you will: Calling into work sick,
not turning up to appointments and interviews as well as turning up late are
all signs that you are not happy with direction you are headed in. Think about
how different you are when you’re really interested in something and this will
motivate you to feel that much better all of the time. This will then, through positive steps, lead
us to stop lying to ourselves. To apply for an apprenticeship programme visit. www.clmd.org.uk/apply
Cedainne Hart
Centre for Leadership and Management Development
18-36 Wellington Street
Woolwich
SE18 6PF
02083177380
Website www.clmd.org.uk
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